secrets of having healthy coversations

1.Listen especially for hidden questions.Children will not normally ask direct questions about some issues such as sexuality.Use conversation starter to understand the questions your children would have asked but they are not direct.Think of the time you were that age and give age appropriate information. 2.Never try to talk about something you were trying to teach when you are angry.Outcomes of talks when you are angry may lead children to engage in undesired behavior 3.Emphasize the postives.As a parent begin each conversation with affirmation of the postive things observed 5 Dont put off an answer for ever.if caught unawaresor are embarrassed by a question or situation,avoid putting off the answer for ever.Tell them you need time to think about it.you will get back to them with a good answer. 6 Tell stories .use cultural stories in your language,use biblical stories,determine what lessons can be draw from the stories.Stories can be told with great imagination to fit the present day situation.Lesson are not taken personally and children feel victimzed.This is the best way to teach embarrassing/ difficult topics 7.Be willing to tell your own story,what kind of challenges did you face as a child in issues such as sexuality. as a parent,use the teachable moment